Uniqueness

Over the course of my training, I made numerous and careful observations about myself, of those around me, and of the wider world. One of those observations and realisations was how unique everyone is. Yes, I knew this before, and it's a simple concept that is universally acknowledged, but it was with a basic level of awareness that has now grown and become integral to my practice as a therapist.

It is an observation which has allowed me to appreciate specific attributes in those whom, in the past, I've been unable to align myself with or I have felt distant from: family members, friends, colleagues, acquaintances, even concepts. Each facet of our personality and how we function affects our relationships, but having an awareness of this and an understanding of how we function, can help support these relationships and provide us with an alternative frame of reference.

My observation of everyone being unique ties in with an emerging sense of my immortality and, sadly, with the accumulated feeling of grief and loss of those I’ve known. The idea that one could spend the rest of their life searching the entire world and still not find the one person that they have lost through death is, at times, unfathomable.

These observations, together with accepting the sometimes limited parameters between myself and the world, have allowed for healthier and deeper connections with others and with myself. There are no copies of us, and whilst our uniqueness can give us a sense of identity, it may also cause a loneliness that can be challenging to cope with. It is with this level of conscious awareness that I see, welcome, and accept each and every one of my clients as they are, whether I'm with you for one session or for five years.